It's the longest day of the yearRead More
Don't send a card if you don't really want to. Don't force yourself to fit a mold that wasn't made for you. Don't let others make you feel lesser for something you may have no control over. You are valuable. You are lovedRead More
What do we do when we hear others' dreams coming true and feel like our own are far away? We pick ourselves up and head down the path toward our dreams again.Read More
I haven't posted anything about this yet because house buying can be so fraught and unreliable, but we closed on a house yesterday! I had all these plans of taking pictures of Noah and me in front of it to share... and maybe we still will... but it was super rainy today (see "sad collie in wet yard" photo above). Also, there's no electricity at the property for a few more days so with clouds it was just too dark for photoing.
In a couple of weeks we'll be moving into our new little home and preparing for the long haul of renovation/repair work that come with homeownership. We're excited for it for now. We'll see how we feel as time wears on.
It'll be a new experience, a new city (even if it is just 20 miles from our old place). I've been working on expanding myself for a while and it feels like a new city will help me to do that. To reach further and more purposefully for friends. To stand more firmly on my own.
For Noah and me both, the large yard is a huge draw (and for Tag). We have horticultural dreams we would like to realize and artistic ones as well, and so though the space is small inside, outside there's room to stretch and grow and fill and be messy and noisy in.
Stay tuned for updates on house and garden adventures!
In other news, I'm on the last round of substantial revisions for Chasing the Wind. The end is in sight! I will keep you all posted on the pub date as soon as I have it available!
love and light. happy holiday season.
I've been working toward this for a while now, but the milestones still catch me by surprise. Just goes to show that you can have the journey all planned out, know every step, and still be surprised by what you discover along the way.Read More
Not sure what to say in the face of the violence and hatred you hear about, read about, and watch unfold in the news? That's no excuse to keep silent. Here are some ways you can start conversations, move past your hangups, and show your support for change, peace, freedom, equality, and justice for everyone.Read More
You can't wait for your dreams. You have to chase them down and drag them into reality.Read More
I have things I want to talk to you about soon, but right now here's a fun look at what I was up to this weekend, and what I have learned from running recently.Read More
Why it's really ok that you didn't end up being an astronaut, or a pirate, or a fairy princess.Read More
Last year I read a book by Seth Godin called What to Do When It's Your Turn (and it's always your turn). It's a great book. In it he talks about his views on entrepreneurship and how to achieve your goals more efficiently or... at all, really.
The main idea Seth wants to drive home is baked into the title of the book. It's your turn. Now. It's never not your turn. Do something.
This was revolutionary for me (and maybe it is for you, too). The desire to be "the chosen one" is universal. Harry Potter, Luke Skywalker, Cinderella, The Matrix, The Sword in the Stone... I could go on and on naming stories, myths, archetypes from all throughout the history of storytelling that point to the same need in all of us. We want to be chosen. And for some of us that means a lot of waiting and painfully watching while others achieve what we had always hoped for.
I have spent so much of my life waiting to be given permission to live. When I was a teenager, I didn't do anything without permission. Well, I wasn't supposed to, at least... so if I did and it ever became known I'd suffer consequences for it.
Those consequences reinforced the need for permission from anyone and everyone to be able to act. So instead of making art or writing fiction or doing anything that I wanted to do simply because I wanted to do it, I waited for someone to tell me I was allowed to.
Growing up, I had bathroom mirror fantasies (you know, where you lock yourself in the bathroom and have imaginary conversations with your reflection? Anyone? Just me? Ok...) that I had been discovered by someone who would make me a famous model, or actress, or just a member of a richer, more "hip" family. The keen desire to be singled out, to be chosen, has lived inside me my whole life.
What I wish I'd known then, what Seth Godin drives home in his book, is that if you sit and wait for someone else to pick you, the odds are you'll never get to "go" at all. If you want to play the game, if you want to be chosen, you have to pick yourself.
It took me almost 4 decades to discover this truth. When I think about the time and opportunities I wasted by waiting for someone else to tell me I was allowed to live I get a little sad. How much more could I have done if I had realized early on that I could fill my own need by choosing myself?
These days I'm bolder, I dive in and take more risks without waiting for someone to give me the go-ahead. I make messes and sing out of key and am publishing my first novel this year because I'm not waiting for anyone to say "It's your turn." I already know it's my turn. I already know that I'm going to get picked for the team I want to play on because I'm the one doing the picking. I pick myself.
What about you?